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Coaching vs. Managing: What’s the Difference?

ByPenny Strutton

In today’s fast-moving workplaces, the role of a leader is shifting. It’s no longer just about keeping people on task or hitting targets. More and more, leaders are expected to guide, develop and empower their teams. And that’s where the difference between managing and coaching really matters.

Both are valuable, but they’re not the same. Understanding how and when to switch between these two modes is one of the most important skills any leader can develop, especially if you’re serious about unlocking your team’s full potential.

So, what exactly is the difference between coaching and managing? And why should you care?

What is managing?

Managing is often about structure, performance and delivery. It involves setting goals, assigning tasks, monitoring progress and making sure things get done. Great managers bring clarity, coordination and accountability to a team. They keep everything ticking along.

But managing can easily tip into control. When leaders focus too much on outputs, they risk becoming directive, giving answers rather than asking questions, and solving problems rather than encouraging others to solve them.

That’s where coaching comes in.

What is coaching?

Coaching is about development. It’s future-focused, and rather than telling someone what to do, a coach helps them figure it out for themselves. Coaching is rooted in curiosity, listening and asking powerful questions. It’s about helping people reflect, explore options and take ownership of their own growth.

Great coaches don’t need to have all the answers; they know how to create the space for someone else to find them.

You might think coaching is something only external professionals do. But actually, some of the best coaching happens informally, inside teams, when leaders take a step back and ask things like:

  • “What do you think is the best next step?”
  • “What’s getting in the way?”
  • “What support would help you move forward?”

These are simple but powerful coaching-style questions, and they can completely change how people experience leadership.

Why does the difference matter?

Because managing keeps the engine running. But coaching helps people grow.

If you’re always managing, your team might stay efficient, but they may never reach their full potential. You risk creating a culture where people wait to be told what to do, rather than thinking for themselves.

On the other hand, if you only ever coach and never manage, things can become unclear. People still need structure, feedback and expectations. Coaching doesn’t replace management… it complements it.

The real magic happens when leaders learn to balance both. They know when to step in with direction and when to step back with curiosity.

Signs you might be stuck in “manager mode”

Many leaders I coach have brilliant intentions, but they find themselves stuck in what I call “manager mode”. They’re putting out fires, giving advice, solving problems and trying to be helpful — but they’re actually holding their team back.

If you’re noticing things like:

  • Your team comes to you with every small issue
  • You’re constantly answering questions rather than asking them
  • You feel exhausted from being the one who always needs to have the solution

…then it might be time to dial up your coaching mindset.

How to bring more coaching into your leadership

You don’t need a qualification to start coaching your team. You just need to shift how you approach conversations. Here are a few ideas:

1. Ask before you tell
When someone comes to you with a challenge, resist the urge to jump in. Try asking, “What have you thought about so far?” or “What do you think would work here?” It encourages ownership and builds confidence.

2. Get comfortable with silence
People need time to think. If you ask a good question, give them the space to reflect before jumping in. It might feel awkward at first, but it’s often where the real insight happens.

3. Focus on development, not just delivery
During one-to-ones, include questions about growth, learning and motivation, not just progress updates. For example, “What’s something you’d like to improve over the next few months?” or “What kind of support do you need to stretch yourself?”

4. Celebrate reflection
A big part of coaching is helping people learn from their experiences. After a project wraps up, take time to ask, “What went well?”, “What could we do differently next time?” and “What did you learn about yourself?”

Final thoughts

Coaching vs managing aren’t in competition; they’re two sides of the same leadership coin. The key is knowing when to wear each hat. Managing provides the structure people need. Coaching gives them the space to grow.

In 2025 and beyond, the leaders who stand out won’t be the ones with all the answers. They’ll be the ones who know how to unlock answers in others.

If you’re ready to build more coaching into your leadership style but unsure where to start, I offer practical, personalised support through leadership coaching, diagnostics and mentoring programmes. Get in touch to explore how we can build a coaching culture from the inside out… no jargon, just real, lasting development.